The
people we surround ourselves with unintentionally influence our thoughts, words
and eventually our actions. Although, there is no doubt about the fact that you
can be a lone-ranger in order to change your life for the better but we live in
a society. And we are in some way or another surrounded by people everywhere.
And we need each other in order to bring a positive change. Thus, we need to
surround ourselves with people who are harmonious and not toxic. But how do we
determine the difference?
1. Conversation
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One of the easiest ways to determine whether a person is toxic or harmonious is
by the simplest tools provided to mankind. Conversation. Toxic people generally
talk about themselves and keep interrupting or interjecting someone else
mid-sentence. It shows a sense of narcissism and more or less a complete lack
or interest in the other person. Harmonious people tend to not just hear but
also listen to what you have to say and provide a noteworthy feedback too. They
are emotionally attached to a conversation and tend to really invest in what
you have to say.
2. Disagreements
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You can spot a really closeted toxic person too by analyzing how they respond
to disagreements. Open-minded and harmonious people have a habit to may or may
not overreact to disagreements at the forefront but eventually liberal people
tend to see your point of view and perspective and respect it even if they
disagree. This is the basal difference. It is okay to disagree, but how one
reacts to it determines whether he/she is toxic or harmonious. This point needs
no further stressing. We have all seen the infamous newsroom debates on T.V.
enough to know about disagreements and its varied reactions.
3. Control
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Self-control and really using your will power to control certain habits in
order to inhabit a more positive lifestyle is completely different from the
kind of control I am talking about here. Toxic people feel the need to CONTROL
– and this control is generally directed towards everyone else but themselves.
They want to control what someone else eats, talks, or even thinks! Basically,
they are manipulative only to feel a little better about their own
insecurities. Harmonious people are inclusive of others’ different traits. They
are OKAY with it and are more tolerable. They do not feel the need to
manipulate or control.
4. Negative
– Again, a very staple method to
differentiate between people. However, this step really depends on what you
want out of life. Do you want a positive change or are you happy with the
monotony or even negativity that you are currently living in? Toxic people are
extremely negative. And this negativity is directed towards others more than it
is towards themselves. Trying to find faults in everything, constantly pointing
out to someone else’s flaws, gossiping, making fun of others’ weaknesses etc.
are some of the numerous negative vibes that toxic people tend to carry along
themselves. It is alright to joke or fool around once in a while – but when it
becomes a habit it is extremely toxic. Because once you are in and around such
negativity, you subconsciously also start to think like the people around you.
Harmonious people on the other hand are not overtly negative. They may be despairing
about their own lives (unfortunately) but they definitely do not bring others
down. One of the best ways to help such toxic people is to bring them to our meditation
and train your thoughts workshops held every month.
5. Team Work
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Toxic people have the worst time working in teams or in groups because they are
not good with people simply because they see so many flaws in others such that
they start to detest them. They tend to be extremely aloof until and unless
they are the people in charge! That’s their hugest tell-tale sign. A toxic
person hates group activities until he/she is made to lead the said group. This
again denotes their narcissistic, self-centered and selfish demeanour.
Harmonious people can work with others quite well and are actually quite happy
to put aside their ego in order to work for the betterment of their team’s
overall performance.
You can choose to gift OUR “FREE WORKSHOPS
FOR KIDS AND PARENTS book to such people around you which can help them
generate positive thoughts and build better relationships with them.
These
are the most basic and extremely simple methods to judge whether you are
surrounded by the kind of people you want to. Above and beyond this always
listen to your instincts. Because more often than not vibes don’t lie!